A few weeks ago, a close friend lost her father, she was grieving and said to me, “How do you know when there is a sign”?
I wouldn’t say I was a skeptic or a non-believer in what comes after this life. I just never gave it a second thought. When I lost my husband my need to connect and still feel him with me was vital to my healing, moving forward and just functioning on some days. The signs came early, the ladybug on my arm in the car just a few short hours before he passed, then the ladybug at his burial. The lights going out during shiva and the many electrical issues that followed in the coming days. I doubted all of these, I just couldn’t be sure, and I wasn’t convinced that they weren’t just mere coincidences.
A few months later while parked in front of my husband’s childhood home in New Jersey with my son. A song came on the radio by Bruce Springsteen, who if you know anything about Ross you know, Bruce was the end-all be-all. The song was called My Father’s House. In all of the years I had listened to Bruce in the car with Ross I had never heard this song. This was the moment that I started to believe, there was no fathomable way in my mind for this to have been a coincidence.
Since then, there have been many very apparent signs like this and many that have not been as clear but seeing and believing in these signs is a mindset. You must be open to them; you can’t “ask” your loved one for a sign then merely dismiss it as coincidence. I often feel and have felt Ross’ presence isn’t always strong. Sometimes I feel I need him, and he isn’t around. I believe this is how the universe works, how I have learned many lessons and grown on my own. But I also now know when I need him the most he somehow appears.
This is a challenging time of the year for me. Filled with amazing milestones and some very tough ones as well. Ross is here, I have felt a strong presence and lots of very apparent signs these past few weeks. If you are missing your mother this year on Mother’s Day or your father on Father’s Day or any loved one who has passed; listen with your heart and see with your eyes, your loved ones will show you the way.
Happy Mother’s Day to my mom who loved me with every fiber of her being.
I wish I knew then what I know now.
There are no coincidences
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